In the little town called Pasir Gogok in Malaysia it was extremely common to ride on a motorcycle or moped with a baby or drive a car with a baby on the lap. It was another shock. They also spent all their time with their children forgoing not cleanliness but neglecting laundry in the two homes I saw. At the evening dinner hosted by Jay, all the children and babies came too. Meanwhile we got a baby-sitter to stay in our room while the children slept. Babysitters are not common where we were. They charged us $80 RM which is about 12 an hour meaning that they made the prices super high since it was a resort but most things in Malaysia aren't priced equivalently.